Wit In The Void

  Wow we've been neglecting this blog for so long! (Glad you noticed) It's not that I've forgotten about it (really), it's just that I've been thinking about what to write and how to present it and whether it would even be good that whatever ideas I had all got tangled in a web of confusion (like this post is about to get).  So I thought I'd write about what I have been feeling these past few weeks (and panicking about), and hopefully you can relate (the entire point of this blog!). Uncertainty. Uncertainty about the future. Uncertainty about what to eat next. Uncertainty about career choices. Uncertainty about what to wear. Uncertainty about how we look. Uncertainty about how other people look at us. Uncertainty about whether we'd be able to support the kind of lifestyle we've been dreaming of. Uncertainty about shoe choices. Uncertainty about literally anything and everything.  With this generation we've pretty much seen almost everything (a gross ...

Hello beautiful people! It's been a while, but fear not we're here now  (honestly though its been such a long time that we might've kinda forgotten our password😅) Change is a constant, or so we’re told, but for some of us, it feels more like a constant threat than a comforting truth.  Research in clinical psychology has shown that fear of change, also known as metathesiophobia, often connects with a lack of control or overwhelming past experiences (Taylor, 2019; APA, 2020). With this poem, we try to put into words the complex and sometimes invisible struggle that come with the fear of change. It’s not just about just being still but also trying to feel safe and knowing that you have your own place and pace in a world that demands you to keep moving. I abhor movement Movement means change Every inch seems like an achievement It's all just strange I abhor movement like I abhor change Scares the living lights out of me Are we on the same page It brings out a fear ...

I find myself these days Struggling to smile To not give that inch That desperate mile I find myself these days Just needing to lay Down and down and down Not having any say  Uncertain future Full of turmoil Do I stay or do I go Everything's just a coil I don't know what to do With myself or my life Resources I don't have Desperately need a glue All of this, everything None of this is new Feels like a cycle Everything's askew Don't ask me how I am I'd tell you if I knew Out bursts the dam No sense of anything  Feeling alone in a crowd Left out in it all Friends they surround Can't get to me at all Feels like I have nothing to talk about Nothing to enjoy or to hope Shrouded in doubt Everything feels strange Feels like acting  The happiness the smile Stranger playacting Mile after mile after mile Did I think about it Momentarily I did Did I enjoy the pit  More than I can admit Nothing seems to ease These feelings of unease I'm not sure if I want it to simp...

Hello beautiful people! You know what I feel lately? Envious. Envious of all those hibernating animals who can simply turn their attention away from humanity and sleep. I want that! (I mean…Have you ever gotten so tired of just human interaction that you just wanna crawl into a hole and sleep the next few months away….or is it just me?) Hope life has treated you amazingly since the last time we talked…..and if it hasn't…..you're not alone…. we're all on the same boat! (I really hope some of you know how to swim in case the boat capsizes because I definitely don't). We are backkkk! It's been awhile! Oh well, busy life and all that.  Anyways….if you haven't read our previous post …do check it out (trust me you need context). Continuing from where we left last time, like we said, we really would want to put forth the perspectives of those people who are or were in a position to lead a certain group . Indulging ourselves with more perspectives and more opinions abo...

From deaths to weddings, from mourning to celebrations, from academic stress to anxiety about event planning, these last two months have been filled with it all. We sincerely apologize for not posting for so long and we will try our best not to let it happen again.  okay so now that we're done with the apologies, let's get on with it! This is one article that I somehow cannot relate to any psychological theory. I can only hope that some of you relate to this and find some comfort in the fact that you're not alone. Getting a chance to lead a group of people is always thrilling but never easy. There's a lot of pomp and circumstance surrounding the external promotion, but the actual work is a lot harder than it's portrayed. I guess the kind of leader you are depends upon you, your qualities, and the ability you have to adapt to the needs and wants of the people you are leading. Personally, being a leader can be a lot scary because a whole group of people rely on the de...

Referring to the article we wrote last week, we thought it is imperative to also discuss the possible ways (at least some ways that seem to have worked for us….and of course, research) to go through the open struggle.  People generally turn to unhealthy methods of coping to get through distress, especially at times when they might not be feeling supported (and yes, we’re talking about alcohol, among many many other examples). The point is, that simply talking about these issues doesn’t help. We need possible means to cope with those feelings. Personally, what helps me through a hard time is music, a long walk outside, or, if you’re fortunate enough to have friends, just a long ranting session.  And this blog would obviously not be complete without some methods that are backed up by research evidence (duh). Generally, if someone lacks social support, they can consider joining support groups, volunteering, or attending social events to meet new people and engage with the communi...